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A Time to Remember:

A retreat for women whose mothers have died

with Joanne Dehmer SSND

Fri, Nov 4, 6:30 pm


Sat, Nov 5, 4:00 pm

at the Benedictine Center in Saint Paul

About The Retreat

“We mourn the death of our mother all the days of our life.”  Whether our mother died this year or thirty years ago, we grieve.  Some of us grieve what we had and some of us grieve what never was in our relationship with our mother.  This retreat offers women an opportunity to explore the significance of mother loss.

Presenter:  Joanne Dehmer, School Sister of Notre Dame received a Masters Degree in Ministry at Seattle University, WA and spiritual direction training at the Center for Spiritual Development then located in Mankato, MN.  Joanne’s background includes teaching and pastoral care.  She has journeyed with many individuals and families through illness and death, as well as her own experience of loss and grief.

Reflections from daughters …

…why has it taken me so long to begin to talk about missing out on having  a mother around while I was a teen?

My mother’s death not only affected me but also the dynamics and relationships of my extended family.  I needed the collective wisdom of a leader and other women who knew intuitively the significance of this kind of loss and supported each other in mourning it.

What a wonderful opportunity to take some time to reflect on my Mom and how her presence  and relationship with me has impacted my life.

I remember experiencing a variety of emotions and feelings in a safe, respectful, and caring environment.

I remember feeling the sacredness of how each person’s story was received in a loving, and nonjudgmental manner.

I remember feeling the presence of my Mom, and the presence of the other Moms

I remember feeling a lightness and that I could keep moving forward.



Overnight rate: $210

Commuter rate: $160

Please call Joanne at 651-641-0008 ext 12 to register.

This retreat is only offered in-person.

The retreat is hosted at the Benedictine Center of St Paul’s Monastery, 2675 Benet Road, St Paul, MN 55109


Joanne Dehmer SSND


Joanne is a native Minnesotan, having grown up in St. Michael. Her years with the School Sisters of Notre Dame have spanned a wide variety of activities and ministries. With extensive skills in teaching and spiritual direction and ministry training, she also has wide-ranging pastoral experience in parish and retreat settings.

The depth and width of her experience, coupled with her easy presence and inquiring intelligence enhances her professional qualifications as a spiritual director and a retreat guide. Joanne’s own experiences of grief, mid-life changes, aging, death and dying inform her ministry.